Tuesday, 28 May 2013

How to make the MOST out of your life

Life indeed has always been something that we all ponder at some points of our lives, don't we?

Here are some tips that I have for you to make the MOST out of your life.

1. Treasure Now

In life, sometimes there are some past that we have to let go. Why do I say this? Everyone has a story, a story that shapes who they are now.  Some of us let the past, mostly those filled with negative emotions such as depression, suicide, self-harm, loss of a loved one or even a broken relationship prevent and deter from moving on, and having a better life. Our past may haunt us, but does it have to?

Treasuring what we have now is important, as the past is the past, and no matter how much we may want it to, nothing can change it.  So, Accepting who you are, how you feel and what kind of a person you wish to be is crucial.

2. Discover and Explore your interests

In some cultures, who we are have already be defined by the perceptions and expectations of the society.  For example, for the Asian culture that I come from, academic excellence is mostly the priority, the only criteria to succeed (as if it is all that true).  So, more often than not, one ends up getting stressed out, depressed and commit suicide due to all these pressure and expectations from people around them.  In Singapore, college suicides are prevalent. Mostly, one's interests are put aside because of all these expectations or responsibilities.  It's difficult to set some time for hobbies and fun.

So, take time off and just stay still in your mind and try out new things!  Explore your strength, talents, extraordinary abilities, well, also you weaknesses and flaws as well. Find out what you enjoy doing, i.e. playing badminton, snooker, football, travelling, reading etc..

3. Look beyond yourself... Help others who are less fortunate

Well, there are many in this world who have lesser than you do. They may struggle with starvation everyday... thinking of whether or not they will have their next meal.  Of course, sometimes, this is exaggerating.  But truly, do not be self-centered if you want to make the most out of your life.  Utilise your strengths, abilities to help others, reach out and assist people.  Trust me, it will give you much satisfaction because people will see your sincerity in helping them if you go all out. 

4. Be adventurous and ambitious

Try out new things. There is a saying, Do a thing that you are afraid of everyday (paraphrased).  I believe through experience, you will be able to enjoy what you do, may it be bungee jump, parachuting, rock climbing or as simple as trying to pet a dog everyday when you have phobia with dogs.

5. Appreciate

Lastly, be thankful for what you have in the Present. Well, I believe (in my own opinion) all things come from God.  So, it's important to not be overly greedy at times, as we ought to be thankful for all that we have.  Perhaps, striving to improve ourselves day-by-day, no matter how little, would be an excellent things to do.

With all that said, I hope you all can learn something new based on my sharing. Do comment, share, follow...

See ya!

Friday, 24 May 2013

May 24th, and some Music to share! :)

Hi peeps and bloggers,

May 24th, is my birthday!! And I am pretty glad today is a wonderful day!

Been struggling with some personal issues recently and I am really happy that they were almost all resolved before my birthday.

is something I have been longing for in Life
So, everyday, I strive to improve in this aspect 
based on my own perception,
I am a very COMPLEX person

Not many presents I've got this year,
No parties as always..
but just SIMPLE and NICE!
Simply Wonderful

On May 24th last year, it was my saddest birthday ever
as I was struggling with psychological problems.

Just being thankful and glad I overcame the hurdles 
Now I'm able to SIMPLY improve myself day-by-day
as a whole person.

Without furthur-a-do,
Here are some pieces that I really enjoy and would LOVE to share.
Hoping to give you some Relaxation and Encouragement.

It's a random mixture, so I would advise that you all just listen as you wish.

And this song is to emphasise what's important is HERE and NOW. 


Peace Out!

Saturday, 11 May 2013

A Cool Audio Virtual Haircut!

Hi people! 
I just found something really cool from Facebook and want to share with all of you.
Just click on this and enjoy your virtual haircut.
Firstly, listen with headphones/earphones and make sure the right and left earplugs are plugged in their respective ears.
And then, close your eyes and enjoy!
What I will tell you is this: (no spoiler intended) It's so real, you feel the sensations.. and it's just so cool!! xD
Disclaimer: The audio is not made by me and there is no intended copyright infringement here. All copyright belongs to the owner of this audio.
Peace Out guys!

Thursday, 9 May 2013

Valuing Yourself -- A Step Forward

It is good to know that life has a lot to offer you, but even better to know that you have got a lot to offer life!  -- Unknown --

Have you all ever thought of valuing yourself?  Well, not in terms of monetary value, for our lives aren't supposed to be put on a price tag (just my opinion).  After reading a section of a book written by psychologist Gillian Butler and psychiatrist Tony Hope entitled "Manage Your Mind - The Mental Fitness Guide", I would love to share my thoughts on Self Value, simply meaning valuing yourself as an individual.
When do you value yourself?  Is it necessary?  Personally, I believe being aware of our inner thoughts are crucial to help us all build successful lives, whether it is in studies, careers, relationships or even in socialising.  Just imagine, if you are not even aware of what you think or how you behave, it is for sure that you would be vulnerable in the society.  Hence, with self awareness comes self value.  Firstly, just giving you a general idea of self value, self value is a rather subconsious action that we all do, through some experiences and achievements in life, to give ourselves worth.  The worth here may be positive or negative.  It's like rating how well you think of yourself from a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the low value, and 10 being the highest value. 

What exactly is Self Value?

So, how do we actually value ourselves?  Do we value ourselves by our achievement and perceived success, or do we value ourselves by searching within ourselves a sense of worth?  Many believed that: "The better I do in the assignment (for example), the more worthy I become or the more respected I am." I would say that is PLAIN WRONG.  Let me give you an example here.  Using the analogy of parental love as written in Butler G. & Hope T. (2006), eventhough children may do as many things that their parents disapprove of, or maybe the children just have really bad attitudes, parents would still LOVE them with all their heart...... despite everything that they have done. Carl Rogers call this unconditional positive regard.  In short, this unique value present within all of us, does not depend on whether or not you have the abilities to do things, attain success in life.  Valuing yourself is based on you, as an individual and that's it!  You being who you are gives you value.

Are you applying Double Standards?

Talking about double standards, most of the time it means underrating yourself because you are you and not someone else, and also sometimes overrating others. Why do we do that?  Simply because we care for ourselves, our future and apply a different standard on our daily assignments and work simply because we want to attain better things (it can be anything in general).  For example, in a test, you will not be satisfied if you obtained an A grade and desire for an A+; whereas for your sibling who obtained only a B, you would say "Well done" to him or her.  You are doing this not because you are greedy for better results, it's because you are setting another standard to achieve for yourself.  Ask yourself, how different are you from your sibling? Why downgrade yourself just because it is you? 
It is important not to set double standard for yourself as you will be constantly undermining yourself, and sooner or later you will have negative thoughts about yourself because you are always undervaluing yourself.

More Reasons that we undervalue ourselves

1. I am not someone else who is better than I am
For example, there is someone whom you admire because they have more capabilities in doing a certain job.  And what you do is you berrate yourself for not being like this person because you don't have the capabilities to do the things that this so-and-so did.  Think about it, are you thinking rationally? This person may have the abilities that you don't, but you do have your own strengths, talents and abilities too.  Does having less of a ability make you less of being a person? No. Hence, it is only logical and sensible that we value ourselves as who we are.

2. It's arrogant
Arrogance is unfair to others. Undervaluing yourself is some way is just the same as being arrogant, except it's the reverse. Giving yourself a value is a right things to do, in fact it's good for self improvement and also maturity in the process of growing.

3. I have made many mistakes
Many times, we undervalue ourselves not because we are disappointed for missing the mark, it's because we are disappointed in ourselves. But the fact is, more often that not, it is in the nature of standards that we often fail to live up to them all the time. It's impossible. As we become self aware that we have failed in something that we do, it is important for us to value ourselves and rectify the mistakes, or improve on it et cetera.  And the ability to be able to rectify problems is the sole reason we should never cease valuing ourselves.


So peeps, valuing yourself is vital as we go through phases in life and it helps to give a boost in various aspects, such as motivation, self esteem, confidence and also self improvement.  Lastly, I hope that you all learn something new in this article and benefit from my sharing.  Do comment below if you have any questions. :D
Remember, besides having self value,

That's all for now.

Butler, G & Hope, T 2006 Manage Your Mind - The Mental Fitness Guide (2nd Edn.), Oxford University Press, Oxford, England.

Saturday, 4 May 2013

The author

Dear readers,

First of all, Welcome to my blog! In this first post of this blog, I would just like to introduce a couple of things about myself and also about the blog.

My name is Amy Ng, from Selangor, Malaysia. Just in case you all do not know where Malaysia is, it is located in South East Asia, just being a friendly neighbour of Singapore. I am currently doing my Pre-University Course, specifically South Australian Matriculation (equivalent to Year 12 in Australia) in a private institution.

What are my interest? You may ask. In short, I like to acquire knowledge and learn basically anything, and I mean ANYTHING under the sun..... and the moon. My current interests are more inclined towards Psychology, Social Sciences, Economics, public speaking and voluntary work.

That's basically all the things I am going to say about myself. Now, off to the blog. Just for a quick overview, I will write mostly on Themed issues. I will discuss about current "hot topic" issues in Malaysia, share my insights on some books that I have read, some fun and exciting events and ask for your opinions! Of course, through the course of reading my posts, you are more than welcomed to suggest a specific topic that you would like to discuss about.

That's about it, peeps. You are encouraged to follow my blog for updates and comment!

Peace Out!! :D